Did you ever get blamed for something that you did not do and when you defend yourself, no one believes you?When I obtained my very first full-time job as a surgical assistant for a well established successful oral surgeon, I experienced an accusation, that almost cost me my job. You see, I was all of 19 and worked with another woman who was about 36. She had gone to school to be a surgical assistant while I was in nursing school just learning on the job. The doctor trained me quite well on how to set up surgical trays and assist him in surgery. When I worked with this particular woman, for some reason she wanted to show off that she knew how to do everything and I was just a kid learning.
Over the next few weeks, there were many mistakes in tray sets ups. When we got to the surgery, the wrong size instruments would be on the table making the circulating nurse have to go out and get the correct instrument. The doctor became furious because it was always on my surgical assisting. I could not imagine why the trays were set up wrong as I would set them up per the required instruments on my “cheat sheet.” One day I started to notice that this woman would change my tray and say I had it all wrong and she knew what the doctor needed. I received a warning from the doctor that I was going to be fired if I did not start doing things correctly. I tried to explain, but he did not want to hear anything about it.
I prayed and asked God to help me. Things kept getting worse. One day, the woman announced that she was taking vacation for 2 weeks. The doctor brought in another assistant that only worked part-time for him and asked that she help during her absence. This other assistant came in to help, she was the nicest girl. She watched me set up the trays and complimented me on the speed and organization of the tray and in the order that the doctor would use the instruments. During surgeries the doctor asked who made up the trays and I quietly said I did. He did not say anything more. The 2 weeks passed by and the other woman came back from her vacation. The doctor asked her to make up all the surgical trays from now on and I was to just watch and assist him in surgery only. I thought to myself, okay I am going to be fired over this.
One day I came in to work and the doctor called me in to his office, he asked about my aspirations in life and what I planed to do when I was done with school. I did not know what I wanted to do, but I did say I did want to work with him in surgery and learn. The doctor went on to apologize for doubting my skills, he proceeded to tell me that he had been observing my behavior and that of the other assistant and noticed that she was deliberately messing up my trays to make me look bad. She did this for so long, that when it came time for her to do them on her own, she could not figure out what was the correct set up anymore. She was caught in lies as she told the doctor that I had done the trays and of course the week he had her do them, he knew that was not true.
The moral of this story, pride is a tumor that can eat away at the soul and has to be cut out in order for us not to become bitter angry people. This woman had so much pride in her and did not want a new comer to take away from anything that she was doing at this Doctor’s surgical practice, that she used this incident to hurt me and in the end hurt herself, because she was fired. We all need to check ourselves, the next time you get full of pride, if deep in your heart you feel something tug at you that this is not right, listen to that tugging from God and change your attitude.
Do you ever wish that you had a “do over” or “fast forward button? ” Many times we wish that we could have a button to erase painful memories of the past and relive our lives a different way. Many movies on TV allude to that whole new life concept of do over after a dream. When we watch the movies that hit close to home, we find ourselves daydreaming and longing to see our lives have a happy ending. What we need to remember is that these are Hollywood movies to get at our emotions, because if they touch an aspect of your life, then you rate it a good movie. However, in our daily lives, what we can do is really have a “do over button” not so much to do our entire lives over, but more to not repeat the same mistakes again. When we go through a situation, if we can look at how we handled it, then we can learn how to handle it differently to avoid a mistake whether financially or emotionally.
Today take a moment to give yrouself a pat on the back, because we can be our own worse critic and we do have to take time to compliment ouselves and say we are doing a good job
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Did you ever have someone tell you to breathe? I don’t mean in the context of life and death breathing, but rather breathe to calm yourself down from the stress of life. We get wrapped up in the stresses of life and whether we can get everything accomplished in the short time frame that we give ourselves. If we allow this stress to take control, by the end of the day we are overwhelmed, tired, cranky and unable to concentrate on the things that we are trying to accomplish.
Today take a moment to breathe, look at the breeze outside as the leaves on the trees swing back and forth ever so gently. This is God’s way of bringing peace in our lives with a gentle breeze that forces us to stop and take a moment to breathe so that we can take it all in calmly and without needed stress, after all, the task has to be done whether we are stressed or not, so why not opt for the “no stress” approach to get things accomplished.
Serendipity, one of my favorite movies and words. You ask, what does serendipity mean? “The occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.”
In the movie Serendipity, two people met by chance and the connection was instant.Through the years a series of events happened that made one or the other remember each other ( you will have to rent the movie to see the end, no spoilers here). Some people call serendipity luck or by accident, but really it is the Divine Hand of God or scheduled appointments. We can have an idea and say that it is a creation on our own, but where did that idea come from? The ideas that we have come from God, He places these divine appointments in our path either with someone or in our hearts.
So the next time that you have an idea, write it down, explore it in your mind, pray about it and ask God to help you develop it and see where it takes you. In the case of love, a serendipitous moment is also very possible, that is how my husband and I met through a serendipitous moment, but that is a story for another day!
Everyday we see television commercials about celebrities advertising clothes hairstyles, fashion, wealth and a certain lifestyle. As humans we dream of being like those celebrities or other people that we look up to and desire to be just like them. But we fail to realize that who we are is what makes us special. We are original artwork from the Master Painter Himself, God! If God had wanted us all to be like everyone else, He would have instilled the same gene in all of us. instead He gave us each our own thumbprint to be the best that we can be at all we can do.
So the next time that you feel pressured to be like anyone else in school or as an adult to match up to a business that is in your same field, think to yourself that you are unique and can do anything that you set your mind to. Two people can have the exact same training to handle a situation but each has their own flair on how they will handle it. It does not mean that one is right and the other one is wrong, it just means that each handled the situation differently to receive the same outcome.
